Stop hiding.

Earlier I read a report from Buzzfeed News about a teacher who was fired from his job because he repeatedly and intentionally mis-gendered a student. He hid behind the claim that his “religious beliefs” prevented him from lying, and by calling a student (who had transitioned from female to male) by the male pronouns that…

I am not your therapist.

I didn’t go to school for therapy or counseling. I went to seminary school. I don’t have a DSM on my shelf. I have a lot of Bibles and books with big words about theology, but I am not equipped to be your therapist. Yes, I can help you spiritually. I can talk to you…

Divorce casserole.

Recently someone on the great book of faces posted this article called “The Casserole Rules.” Written by Jill English, her entry takes notice of how churches make casseroles for days if you are sick or there’s been a death in your family. But not when a marriage falls apart. No, there’s no casserole when one…

Grief and sacred milkshakes.

“Recovery is one day realizing that your ability to talk about the loss you’ve experienced is indeed normal and healthy.” (The Grief Recovery Handbook, James & Freidman, pg.7) A few weeks ago I was talking with my therapist about grief and all its forms. In that conversation, I remembered times where I was able to…

Church doesn’t work. Well, not in its current version.

Maybe it once did, but not anymore. Atleast not in its current version. Ans yes, as a pastor of a church, I see the irony of all this. It’s possible this is just my cynical side coming out after getting a long weekend with friends and family and wishing I was back at home drinking…

Calling All Clergy: Let Someone Else Hold Space for You.

This morning I found myself in a position I almost rarely do. I was hurt by something small, like really small in the grand scheme of things. And it involved a person I’ve come to trust and regard as a close friend in the last year or so. For what feels like the first time…

Calling all clergy: Don’t settle.

Recently I was telling a colleague and friend who is in the midst of job hunting for a call in the PCUSA, “Don’t settle, wait for the right call.” Easier said than done. You get out of seminary and you need a job. And for the majority of us, you need a call to get…

the task at hand.

The other night I retweeted the following tweet by @KaitlinCurtice, “Pastors: In 2019, do you think you could quote 52 non-white-dudes in your sermons, especially if you’re a white dude?” I love this request. Out of 365 days of the year, what if we lifted up all those other theologians on 52 of those days?!…

changing times.

I’m not really a Bob Dylan fan. I’ve never kept this secret, but I’ve also never just put it out there. It’s not that I don’t like him, I just don’t think his voice is anything to write home about. Now, his songwriting: that’s another thing. His songwriting is where it’s at. In fact, there…

walk like a christian.

In between my morning coffee run and getting to work I heard the Bangles’ Walk Like an Egyptian on the radio as I flipped stations. And of course, now it’s stuck in my head. If you’ve never seen the video, you’re missing out.  Most people, when they hear the song hook, “walk like an Egyptian,”…

las chicas del cables

My latest show obsession has been a Netflix-made Spanish show called “Las Chicas del Cable“ or The Cable Girls. It follows four main women: Lidia/Alba, Ángeles, Marga, and Carlota in 1920’s Spain as women are fighting for their rights. While working at Madrid’s first telephone company as switchboard operators, these women become close friends, sticking…