our words vs. their words

Ever since my ordination in July, I get asked all the time, “Do you feel any different now?”  It’s the same question we like to ask those who have recently been married, or when someone graduates with a degree. It’s distinct in situations like these because for a lot of people, the answer is “no.”…

someone to watch the lighthouse.

Earlier this month, I read this article while gleaning through articles on the NY Times online. It’s about Margaret “Marge” Winski, the Montauk Lighthouse keeper for the past 30 years. This good and faithful servant is retiring at the age of 62. She had dreamed of living in a lighthouse since she was 12. Built…

prayers of the people – 22 july 2018

Gracious God of all creation, our refuge and rock, we come before you as your humble creation. We hold things on our shoulders and hearts that weigh us down; things we have control over, and things that are completely out of our hands. We also come to you in joy and thanksgiving. Thankful for our…

prayers of the people – 15 july 2018

I have never been a great prayer. I feel like I’m always forgetting something. Let’s face it: there is so much to pray for right now. From our personal lives, to our local communities, to our own government and democracy, our planet and the creatures and plants on it… I could go on and on…

Asking the Question.

Two weeks ago, I was finally ordained into the church of my family, the PC(USA). I was surrounded by my family and friends, and stood at the table with 5 fabulous, badass women. Rev. Julie Emery and Rev. Sean Miller gave fabulous charges to myself and the church, Rev. Dr. Jan Edmiston preached a sermon…

My inclusivity does not negate your exclusivity.

Being inclusive does not (should not!) cultivate a spirit of exclusivity of others. Sounds simple, right? Apparently some think it’s not so easy. So, let me break it down. I recently had a meeting about a group I am a part of. We are an inclusive group rooted in PCUSA theology where we uplift all…

leader < follower < leader < follower…

This past weekend T and I were driving to the airport as we passed a billboard that read, “Be a leader, not a follower.” “There’s nothing wrong with being a follower. Sometimes being a good leader means following others and their ideas when they are better. Why does being a follower have to be this…

call me by my name.

What’s in a name? A lot. I’ve often times told a story of a pastor who, years ago, could never remember my name. This pastor called me the wrong name for years; and it wasn’t just that I was called the wrong name, it was that it was really similar to my name, just not…

it’s time to move on. aka: be the church.

Well, if you haven’t heard yet, Tara and I are moving. We’re heading to the Northeast coast for my work (I know, it’s cold there too). I’ve accepted a new position, but because of our Presbyterian process, I can’t tell you where until after the congregation of my new church votes on me. So, is…

pigeon’s holy spirit.

“Good thing she’s not a collie. They don’t make it long. Get depressed. Not very strong willed.” This is what the neurologist at the specialty vet told us when we were consulting with him after Pigeon’s stroke in the Fall of 2016. Yes. You read that right. Pigeon has a neurologist. He’s a dog neurologist….

Podcasts are a thing…

I am not normally a podcast listener, unless it’s Serial, or This American Life, or S-Town, I have a pattern. But sometimes I have awesome friends and colleagues who, for some strange reason, ask me to come on them. Talk about youth? Talk about how to help make the church a welcoming place? Supporting youth…

The place you’re at.

Sometimes, the place you are isn’t necessarily the place you want to be. And other times, it’s exactly where you want to be. In fact, it’s the perfect fit. But this all depends on the day and time. Sometimes the place you are is exactly where you need to be. Sometimes, the place you want…