leader < follower < leader < follower…

This past weekend T and I were driving to the airport as we passed a billboard that read, “Be a leader, not a follower.” “There’s nothing wrong with being a follower. Sometimes being a good leader means following others and their ideas when they are better. Why does being a follower have to be this…

call me by my name.

What’s in a name? A lot. I’ve often times told a story of a pastor who, years ago, could never remember my name. This pastor called me the wrong name for years; and it wasn’t just that I was called the wrong name, it was that it was really similar to my name, just not…

it’s time to move on. aka: be the church.

Well, if you haven’t heard yet, Tara and I are moving. We’re heading to the Northeast coast for my work (I know, it’s cold there too). I’ve accepted a new position, but because of our Presbyterian process, I can’t tell you where until after the congregation of my new church votes on me. So, is…

pigeon’s holy spirit.

“Good thing she’s not a collie. They don’t make it long. Get depressed. Not very strong willed.” This is what the neurologist at the specialty vet told us when we were consulting with him after Pigeon’s stroke in the Fall of 2016. Yes. You read that right. Pigeon has a neurologist. He’s a dog neurologist….

Podcasts are a thing…

I am not normally a podcast listener, unless it’s Serial, or This American Life, or S-Town, I have a pattern. But sometimes I have awesome friends and colleagues who, for some strange reason, ask me to come on them. Talk about youth? Talk about how to help make the church a welcoming place? Supporting youth…

The place you’re at.

Sometimes, the place you are isn’t necessarily the place you want to be. And other times, it’s exactly where you want to be. In fact, it’s the perfect fit. But this all depends on the day and time. Sometimes the place you are is exactly where you need to be. Sometimes, the place you want…

evangelio de mateo 22:15-22

The following sermon and benediction were given to Primera Iglesia Presbiteriana-Reformada de la Habana, Cuba, on 22 October 2017. It was translated with MUCH help from my dear friend, Carmina, who gives me more grace than I deserve most days. It’s not perfect Spanish, but considering I’m still learning, and only started this past summer,…

I only do what I want.

I once tried to convince my wife that I only did something because I was made to. My wife, to her credit, didn’t buy that. “You have never in your life done a single thing you didn’t want to do.” She’s right. I’ve made it a point in my life to be clear that there…

Let’s hear it for the vans.

“These are nice vans,” my adult volunteer said to me from the passenger seat. “I know. They are so much better that the ones I’ve had to drive in the past. It’s like God is rewarding me for all those years of driving crappy church vans that didn’t work or shouldn’t have even been on…

Use your words.

About 6 months ago, I got asked to write for my first published book. Well, it’s not MY book, but a book with other authors, I’m just one of them. It’s on ministering to LGBTQ youth. I was hesitant because it’s not the normal theological circle I run in. But I thought, “what the heck?”…

Everyone has a weakness.

A while ago, when I was being interviewed by a church, they asked me, “What can’t you live without? What’s your weakness?” While that’s an interesting question to the right person, I am positive I gave some really generic answer. Something like, my dog, or Jesus, or coffee. All things I can’t live without for…

bathing suits vs. thongs

I have more than enough on my plate today. I’ve got a trip to Cuba to finish prepping for. A Small Group Leaders Manual to go over and make notes. A retreat for fabulous queers of faith to work on & fundraising to finish getting ready. A sermon to finish. A devotional to clean up…